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Everlasting Contentment

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Seeking happiness or contentment based on temporary states or conditions can lead to an experience of changing moods that are fleeting and fragile. When we focus on the sensation of being, we tune into our true essence, our shared life that is radiant, pervasive, and unwavering.

We have been taught and conditioned to believe that rearranging and managing our life circumstances is the key to happiness. We work to increase income, status, and raise our social capital, in the hopes that it will bring us greater joy and a sense of peace. Advertisements provide us with a constant source of insecurities, needs and goals to be met that send us scurrying to work, then to the mall.

Beyond seeing to it that we have food, clothing, shelter and a social network, very little beyond those basic needs has anything at all to do with reaching a deep state of contentment. How do we know this?

It’s quite easy to look back throughout the history of humanity and see that amassing great power or accumulating wealth can be directly correlated with happiness or contentment. There are many examples of individuals, who accumulated massive wealth and fame who were, by their own accounts, apparently quite miserable and unfulfilled. Fame and fortune do not lead to happiness.

At the same time, when happiness is studied and measured, what we find is evidence that it has more to do with personal choices, creativity, and the very simple act of pausing our thinking long enough to allow the deep underlying current of the life force that permeates the universe to fill our awareness. We can call this Beingness.

Spiritual teachers throughout millennia have all talked about universal love and the feelings that come with simple Beingness, noticing the beauty of nature and acknowledging that you are also part of that beauty, because you are also nature. The act is so simple, yet we forget it’s available. Perhaps we think there must be more to it.

Why is it, when so many have studies happiness and contentment, that we still spend so much time and energy striving to achieve material wealth and social Capital? We have the tools, but how are we using them?

Imagine someone rushing through traffic in their very expensive car, discussing a business deal on their cell phone, late for their yoga class and now worried they won’t get a good spot near the teacher

It’s just as easy to treat spiritual practices as we treat our work, as things to accomplish. It would be hypocritical not to acknowledge that the relentless pursuit of spiritual or religious deeds is in any way different, when it comes to creating space for peace and contentment, than the relentless pursuit of fortune or fame. When we link our self-worth to any form of achievement, whether it be financial, social, or spiritual, we risk missing the entire point of a spiritual practice, which is to bring it us a greater sense of contentment and feeling of connectedness to all that is.

Any system that seeks to measure and label spiritual “levels,” creating a hierarchy based on performance or achievement, is a result of a false premise, which is: People must demonstrate the depth of their spiritual status by performing tasks that are observable and measurable.

When we realize and acknowledge that spirituality and contentment are not performance-based, we will be closer to our goal because we will have it cleared away so much of the clutter that is burying that which is readily available. Everyone has access to the same spiritual tools, regardless of location, of language, of economic or social status, of age or ability, or of any man made construct or system.

Just as the accumulation of things can lead to clutter, so can the accumulation of religious and spiritual practices lead to a burying of the awareness you may have of your true essence and birthright of joy and contentment. Spiritual and religious practices exist to help remind us of what we already possess. They are a map, not the destination.

The fact is, you have always been where you need to be. You have always have the tools you need to build the life you want and deserve. Like so many of us, you may have become distracted in the pursuit of things and achievement. However; it’s possible to achieve while also being aware that achievement is not related to your ability to deeply connect with the life force that drives everything in the universe.

What we all need to remember, is that contentment is not the result of achievement. You don’t achieve your way to contentment. Contentment is a by-product of Beingness.

Something you can try: Pause several times a day to notice beauty in the smallest of things. Wherever you are, notice the space and textures around you. See everything as a work of art. Feel the air around and inside your body. Notice how everything is connected to everything else. Feel the sensation of gravity hugging you towards the earth. Notice the light reflecting off of the various objects and illuminating the space. Tune into the sensation of Being and feel the energy of life emanating from within. Acknowledge this miracle. This moment is eternal and never ending. Right here, right now, you have everything you need to achieve a state of deep contentment. This is the universe. This is your temple. This is you.

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Good News and Neurons

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News is what people tell us about what we haven’t experienced. We can improve our life experience, and even our situation, when we consume news in ways that are responsible, nurturing, and beneficial to ourselves and to others.

One of the challenges we face when posed with the question, “What should I believe about what people tell me?” is the fact that we are biologically predisposed to believe what people tell us. As we evolved as humans, we developed the tendency to believe stories about potential dangers over things that were potentially neutral.

Imagine a group of early humans walking through the forest together. All the members are spread out far enough so they can see and hear one another, but not close enough to see and hear the same things. Some of the members hear a sound come from the bushes and quickly need to decide if it could be an animal or not. If it is an animal, is it one they are looking for or one that might be looking for them? Have they found prey or are they about to become prey?

A member of the group closest to the sound decides it’s not worth the risk and starts to run. The others in the group see him running, assuming there is danger, and begin to flee towards safety. They regroup on a nearby hill, ready to defend themselves if needed. Suddenly, a large bird emerges from the bush and flies away. Dinner has eluded them, but everyone is safe.

Our need for safety is often greater than our need to confirm what is actually happening in our environment. We are more likely to believe in potential threats, simply because it’s far more acceptable to lose a meal as opposed to losing one’s life. We are wired for defense and that makes us especially susceptible to what people tell us about what we haven’t experienced. Not believing in potential threats can place us in stressful situations. At the same time, believing in unconfirmed threats can make us fearful, paranoid, and disempowered.

It’s up to each of us to question the news we hear, to seek to confirm what others tell us about what we have not experienced, and to decide for ourselves how to respond, rather than running in fear because we see other people running in fear. Yes, maybe there is a tiger in the bushes waiting to pounce. It’s probably a good idea to remain a safe distance away until that theory can be proved or disapproved.

When we choose to run away from any situation in which we have no first hand experience, not only do we increase our own anxiety due to all the terrible things we imagine, we lose the opportunity to experience the world as it is, to grow and develop, and to nurture and empower ourselves.

When someone tells you story of a terrible danger, rather than running away in fear, thank them for letting you know about a potential danger, then do your best to discover the truth so you can take action based on your authentic experience.

When we breathe, we consume. When we drink, we consume. When we eat, we consume. When we see and here, we consume. Whatever we consume, we add to ourselves in some way, shape, or form. We consume to nurture our bodies and our minds. The quality of what we consume directly affects the quality of our life experience. We are shaped by our environment and our relationship with it.

We are social creatures, sharing a high degree of empathy. It’s quite easy for most of us to imagine the sensations and feelings of other people. When we are exposed to people who are laughing and smiling, we often laugh and smile, even when our experience is brought to us through something as remote as a television or computer screen.

Because our minds are equipped with mirror neurons, it’s fairly easy for most of us to experience reflections of what happens to others within ourselves. If you’ve ever cringed when watching someone else getting physically hurt, you’ve experienced this phenomenon. The question we must ask ourselves is, “Am I making conscious choices about the types of experiences and information I am consuming?” Are you aware of the quality of what you consume?

Other questions might include, “What is the feeling or emotional quality of the experiences I am consuming?” and, “What is the likely impact on my own mood or emotional state as result of watching this content?” and of course, “Is the emotional quality of this content in alignment with my personal needs and goals, in terms of how I want to feel?” Answering these questions will help you improve the quality of whatever it is that you consume.

Not all food feeds your body in ways that are beneficial. All food will shape your body, but not all food will benefit your body. All the stories, news, and information you consume will shape your mind, emotions, and spirit, but only some will be beneficial. Many of us live in environments that have been described as a “food swamps,” areas where there is an over abundance of all types of foods, those of quality and those of little or no quality. The challenge it is not having food to consume, but in finding and consuming the quality food that will lead to a quality life.

Today, many of us experience a news and information swamp environment on a daily basis. The challenge is not to find stories, but rather finding those few stories that have the potential to lead us down paths of discovery towards truly beneficial and authentic experiences.

Is it possible to become mindful of the information you consume? Is it possible to recognize, early on, that a show you’re watching contains content that has nothing to do with your intellectual and emotional goals? Is it possible to reduce the amount of time you spend listening to stories that have little or nothing to do with your day-to-day life and which may be fanning the flames of fear in your heart?

If you don’t take an active role in making choices about the stories and sights you consume, you will be at the mercy of those who may be unaware of the potential damage they are causing in the hearts and minds of their brothers and sisters. This is not about sticking your head in the sand or ignoring information. It’s about taking an active role in what and how you consume what is available to you, seeking first to gather the information that supports your needs and goals, and always investigating every story you hear, so you don’t end up running away from life in fear, but walking towards the unknown, curious, and excited to live more deeply.

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Associations

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Your mind is wild, untamed, and organic in nature. Thoughts rise and fall like waves in your imagination. Memories play in the theatre of your awareness as your mind wonders into the future, like a child lost in a Bizarre. The question is: What will your experience be, one of panic or of wonderment?

Your mind is a beautiful tool. It helps you solve problems, presents you with options, and imagines the possibilities. It offers you myriad paths to follow, some of which will help you reach your goals. You mind is wild, unpredictable, creative, and complex. It loves to identify, label, compare and categorize. It seeks out patterns and makes predictions – and it does all of these things automatically, whether you prefer it to or not.

Understanding the nature of your mind and creating a peaceful and prosperous co-existence with it, is one of the goals of the Thoughtfulness Practice. The first step is accepting and acknowledging the dynamic nature of your very creative human mind. Know that having thoughts is not a problem, especially when you consider the alternative. Having an adverse relationship with your thoughts can cause you to suffer needlessly.

The good news is, there are ways to change your relationship with your thoughts that will liberate your emotions from the burden of over thinking.

Why is it, that certain thoughts seem to create a stronger internal reaction than others? It all has to do with Associations. Your mind is constantly making connections between things, ideas, and feelings. You meet someone for the first time who reminds you of someone with whom you’ve had some conflict, some unpleasant feelings, and you immediately feel those negative emotions, even though you have no history with the person standing in front of you.

We’ve all experienced having a certain type of emotional reaction to a person, place, or situation that shares some similarity with another experience from our past. Why does this happen? It’s simply your mind making connections, looking for patterns, exploring possibilities, and making associations between things.

Remember: Your mind is a network of memories and those memories trigger emotions. When one aspect of your mind is stimulated, other areas are as well. Thoughts about one thing ignite thoughts and feelings about other things. We know this to be true. An examination of your own thought process will confirm this.

Because our minds are making associations between things that are similar, the energies or emotions we experience along with those things are also drawn into our experience.

Because we cannot control this process, we sometimes have strong reactions to what we think of as a single event. In reality, it may be a new and unique event, but because our minds are always looking for connections, patterns, and similarities, we experience it along with the memories and emotions of many experiences, some which may carry with them undesirable or unsettling emotions. The more associations our mind makes, the more likely we are to have an intense experience of something. This is your neural-network in action.

What are we to do with our wild and uncontrollable minds? How do we stop this process so we’re not reminded of past trauma? How do we control our thinking?

We don’t.

Your mind is designed to be wild, to be creative, to make associations. This is what makes you human. Don’t make the mistake of viewing the way you are designed as wrong. Taking this position will only cause you greater hardship and suffering.

Accept your mind the way it is. Evolution is not about suppression, it’s about creating better relationships. If your mind is wild, accept that it is wild and work with it the way it is. Observe your mind like you would a natural landscape. Do you try to stop the wind from blowing? Do you try to make the birds fly in a particular path. Do you try to make the flowers show specific colors? Of course not. Why take the same approach with your mind?

Let go. Let your mind do what it wants. When a thought creates an emotion, observe that it did and accept it. You don’t have to believe that these associations are true or even valid. This is your mind at play, exploring, creating, and connecting things. Your mind loves to do this. Let it play. Let the emotions come up. Expect that they will. Know that they are remnants from past experiences, not your current experience.

Just because your mind creates an association between things, doesn’t mean that the association is true or even relevant. The person standing in front of you is who they are in this moment and no one else. The words of a stranger are not the words of your parent. The feelings you have now are not the feelings you had as a child. Know that your mind could be adding the weight of past trauma to your present experience through the instantaneous associations it makes.

Remember that ‘this experience’ is not ‘that experience,’ even if your mind is playing with the possibility. What is your current experience? It is what is happening in this moment and nothing else. Yes, part of your experience is what you think and feel, but that is your subjective world. Tune into your objective world by engaging your sense more than your mind, and you will likely find peace, tranquility, and love.

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A Natural Practice

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mindfulness-kalani-meditationHold what is but do not hold it to be anything.
Work with all that comes from Heaven, but do not seek to hold it.
Just be empty.

The perfect man’s heart is like a mirror.
It does not search after things.
It does not look for things.
It does not seek knowledge, just responds.
As a result, he can handle everything and is not harmed by anything.

- The Book of Chuang Tzu

They tell us to clear our minds, to empty the space in our heads, to focus on non-thinking. What tool will you use to reach this state, your mind? Will you think your way out of thinking? Will you clear your thoughts with different thoughts? How will you suppress the parade of images that seem to flow freely? Even if you could press a button and reduced the chatter in your mind, how would you guarantee that only the most useful thoughts remain?

If your mind is busy, active, and creative, isn’t this obviously its natural state? If you take the position that your mind is over active, that is should be less active, aren’t you also implying that there is something fundamentally wrong with the way you are? If your position is that you have a fundamental flaw, you will likely spend a vast amount of time and energy trying to change your very nature. This type of approach to creating inner peace and a quality life experience is sure to pose constant challenges, and in many ways, puts you at odds with nature.

How can you expect to create mental harmony when you refuse to accept your fundamental nature? The human design is the product of millions of years of evolution. Is it realistic to take the position that it’s somehow not what it is supposed to be–that we should all be different than we are? Even when taking the view that we are designed intelligently, is seeking a workaround to this design respectful or appropriate?

If your goal is greater mental clarity, harmony, and contentment, then you first need to gain a realistic view of the conditions, challenges, and resources you have to work with.

There’s a better way to create harmony within yourself and between yourself and others–a way that accepts your nature and embraces your ability to move beyond confusion into clarity, harmony, and contentment.

First: Accept the nature of your mind. Rise above the need to view your design as flawed. You are not flawed–you are human. You have a special type of mind that requires an insightful approach to creating inner peace and harmony. Accept your mind as creative, imaginative, busy, and prolific. Celebrate these qualities. Enjoy the richness of your imagination.

Second: Become an observer of your mind. Become curious. Watch your mind like you would the weather. Everything you observe is natural. Accept every thought and feeling as they move through your awareness like the weather moves across the land. Resist the temptation to think of it as anything but natural. Resist the temptation to label thoughts and feelings as good or bad. Resist the temptation to suppress or clear your thoughts. Simply watch the parade with a sense of wonderment.

Third: Choose and use the thoughts that serve your values, leaving the rest behind. Know that most of your thoughts are nothing more than repetitive displays of your imagination, creative possibilities, and improbable scenarios. Be amused, but not annoyed. Be surprised, but not afraid. Be intrigued, but not irritated. Be curious, but not confused. Your mind is trying to help you by showing you possibilities, giving you choices, offering you options. Let it make these offerings, then choose the thoughts you want to use to help you reach your goals. Not all thoughts are created equal with regard to usefulness. This topic will be discussed in greater detail in a future episode.

This is your thoughtfulness practice.

There is nothing wrong with your design you only need to become more skilled in using your mind, just the way it is.

  1. Accept the nature of your busy mind.
  2. Observe your thoughts without judgment.
  3. Choose to follow those thoughts that serve your values.

Take this practice with you anywhere and cultivate it anytime. Use it to create more harmonious relationships, both inside yourself and between yourself and others.

When we choose this approach for ourselves and cultivate our practice, our relationships and communities will reflect the changes. All positive change begins with you. It’s easier than you think.

Thank you for joining me on this journey, and know that–You Are Loved.

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Surrender to Beauty

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Know the entire universe as a vast arena within which your mind can play endlessly.

Playing, let your awareness be everywhere at once. Planets, stars, swirling galaxies, and all of the subatomic motes are dancing with you.

Enter the Rhythm. Descend into the Space between beats. Dissolve into intimacy with the Dancing One.
–The Radiance Sutras.

The universe has been at play since the beginning of time. You are her partner. Every element, the seen, the unseen, the manifested, the un-manifested, the obvious, and the subtle, are waiting for your hand. You don’t have to “do” anything special to be at play, only to surrender to your natural way of being.

A good game is enjoyed equally by all, win or loose, rise or fall. The game is life and playfulness is one path to victory. It’s the playful ones who never loose. They know it’s not about holding a trophy when the game is over. They are winning every moment they are awake, thankful for this life and forever amazed at the beauty that surrounds them.

A playful moment is a cherished moment.

Seek out opportunities to dance with the Divine. Your life is forever creating itself and you are the sculpture. It doesn’t matter what others may believe about you. Dig into the earth and pull out handfuls of potential. Surrender to the beauty of the moment.

Let your awareness be with the planets and the stars. Find inspiration in their endless dance as you sense the space around your bones and the stillness around your being.

A child’s work is his play. Children have no riches, yet they are rich with playful spirit and find beauty in all its forms. Life is beautiful and full when remember to dance and sing without judgment. The ego-mind is not needed in matters of spirit. To embody spirit is enough.

Life is shaped in the pauses between the peaks. Set your sights on lofty goals but remain aware of every step. Fall into the space between the beats. The Enlightening ones join the dance without hesitation. They have accepted this gift without hesitation. They don’t understand why so many choose to stand idle, casting down judgments and the entire time, missing the party.

Forget how to judge, how to shame, how to point your finger at others. Point it into the sky and say, “I am the Universe and the universe is beautiful!” When you remember that “you” are not a thing or an object, but a “playful awareness,” a “pure consciousness,” you step onto the enlightening path.

Pause for a quite moment. Imagine all the subatomic particles that constitute your body, dancing together, creating and recreating your physical being. Your inner body is a beautiful dance. Can you sense it? Feel the pulse of life, the energy of beingness. This is the ultimate game being played out in the vast arena we call the Universe. The manifested world gives you an opportunity to witness it. Can you allow it to be beautiful?

Beauty is everywhere there is someone to notice it. It’s created with beautiful thoughts and actions. An unselfish act, a tender moment between strangers–this is how the Dancing One celebrates. Have you noticed how full of beauty YOU are, Beautiful One? YOU are what happens when the Universe dances. Look no further. YOU are evidence of the Divine.

It’s not important that other people approve or agree with what you find beautiful or the way you choose to express your playfulness. It’s in the creation of art that the artist finds pleasure. Don’t you see? You are the universe at play. Know that whatever people think about you, is a reflection of how they see the world and themselves. Perhaps they are afraid to show their playful side. Show them how to surrender to beauty.

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Staying Centered

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The virtuous one is still and without thought. When he moves he is without design. He keeps no tally of right and wrong, good or bad. Virtuous ones share their gains with All, and from this they derive pleasure.

- The Book of Chuang Tzu

Becoming the objective observer, refreshing your views through active and unbiased observation, is taking a step along the enlightening path. The more judgment we place on what we observe, the farther from the center of mindfulness we move. Being centered is being free of judgment, being mindful, being empty.

Views are what we experience when we observe something from different angles, considering various aspects and qualities. Views help us see a portion of a situation. They can be narrow or broad, but they don't automatically change when situations change, so they are often in need of updating. View points are useful to help us learn about something, but it is when we begin to collect views a memories that we risk moving away from the Center. Views that are held in our memories are no longer in-the-moment experiences and therefore can affect the way we experience the world.

As we collect views as memories, we may develop an Orientation, a way of favoring certain types of views and viewing the world in a particular way. When we become oriented in our thinking and life experiences, we may end up rejecting experiences and information that don’t quite fit with those we’ve collected, even when our experiences are first-hand. We unconsciously restrict our perception, our thinking, and end up with a preferred set of views that we hold onto, like old photographs that bring us comfort.

If we continue to deepen a particular orientation, viewing the world from the same perspective over and over, without taking the time to observe without bias, without judgment, and seeing through a beginner's eyes, we may eventually take a Position. Positions keep us locked into specific ways of thinking, built from static artifacts of our experiences. They are predictable and often unchanging, even in the light of the truth. A position says, "I don't need to look or listen any longer because I already know what that is." Positions can destroy presence. They keep us far away from center and often, in order to feel balanced, need an opposite position to lean against. Maintaining a position requires work. It requires that we build walls around our minds, our senses, and our hearts. When a position becomes so engrained that we no longer are aware of all the work we’re doing to maintain it, it might become a Belief.

Beliefs are notions of the world that supersede our experience of it. They are views that emanate from our internal experiences, rather than our observations. There is nothing unnatural about having beliefs. Everyone believes things. It's only when we place our beliefs in the highest regard, choosing them over our unbiased experiences, that we stray from the center of our mindfulness practice. Being mindful requires that we be willing to update our beliefs, positions, and orientations by taking into account our unbiased observations and first-hand experiences.

Experiences meaning what we sense, rather than what we think or imagine. It means trusting our bodies over our minds, remembering that our minds are as creative as the weather is unpredictable.

Forming beliefs around thoughts is like building a house on the wind.

We find our center when we consider all Views, remember that Orientations and Positions are limiting, and that Beliefs are perceptions of the world that are more rooted in thinking, rather than experiences. Life is growth, change, and forever new. Presence and centeredness develop through observation and attending to in-the-moment experiences, that are uncompromised by thoughts. Thoughts may be interesting, amusing, and even useful, but thoughts about your life are not your life. Memories are not in-the-moment experiences. Feeling centered does not require any special doing. It’s simply a matter of not doing things that may move you away from center. Your natural state is one of peace, joy, and contentment. All you need to do, is to allow the clouds of over thinking to lift away by not holding them in place.

Take a breath and blow them away.

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The Truth

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The truth doesn't need words to be known, only your attention. There is nothing hidden in the Universe.

Words help us express ourselves. They also lead to confusion and even suffering. They can uplift and bring great sorrow. They often are used to describe the truth, yet almost never do. How can they? They are nothing but distant echoes of experiences, reverberating in our minds.

The truth is always ready for your discovery. The truth is rarely the same from day to day, or moment to moment. This is why words often fail to tell the story of the truth. Words and stories are thoughts locked in time. They exist in our minds, whereas the truth, what is true for you, only exists in your present experience.

What is the truth of this moment? It is your experience of it. Pause for a to observe your environment, then observe your sensations, and finally your thoughts. This is your truth–right now.

People try to change the world through words. Their goal is to influence those around them, which often works, but it is not the world that is changed, only people’s minds. If you allow people to influence you through words, your thinking will change with theirs. This is always an option for you and it’s your choice. You are free to adopt any version of the truth that is presented to you. All you have to do is believe the words of others without questioning or verification. This is very easy to do and it’s what most people in the world do every day of their lives.

There is another way to know the truth, which is to be grounded in your own experiences. No one else can do this for you. No one else has your unique experience of the world. This is the way of mindfulness and the enlightening path, moving away from words and stories into your own authentic experience.

People will tell you that the world is fast-paced, crazy, and even dangerous. Is it? Take a moment to observe your life situation right now and see if this is true for you? Yes, it might be true for some people who are, in this moment, experiencing some great challenge, but is it true for you in this moment?

Some people say that one goal of meditation is to move away from what’s referred to as “Monkey Mind,” a restless, unsettled, and sometimes confused mental condition. Ask yourself: “Is my mind unsettled or just active? What is the natural state of the human mind? If you have observed your own mind for any length of time, you’ve likely noticed that it is very busy, very creative, and often working to solve puzzles. This state seems to be normal for the human mind. In fact, many people seem to experience great satisfaction when feeding their minds extra puzzles! They even spend money on books of puzzles and games to feed their hungry problem-solving minds.

Why then, should it be any surprise that our minds are conditioned to be active, to be busy, and to try to constantly solve puzzles? It’s normal for your mind to look for puzzles to solve. When there is no obvious puzzle available, it continues looking. It asks, “What about this? What about that? Could I solve those problems? What if I created some new problems to solve or borrowed some problems that other people have?

Your mind is looking for problems to solve–and words, because they are abstractions, are a great resource. “What did she mean by that? What does this or that mean? What did those people mean when they wrote those stories?

You have a choice when it comes to how you use your mind’s creativity. You can listen to your own self-talk, as if it were the truth, or you can observe your mind’s activity as if it were your enthusiastic helper who is always working to solve your problems. You can allow your mind to churn out thoughts, while you quickly scan them for anything useful. You can think to yourself, “These are all interesting ideas, but most of them are solutions looking for problems. They are a reflection of my beautiful, creative, human mind.”

Just as the words of others require verification before action is taken, so does your own self-talk. Your mind will offer you different scenarios until you decide to accept one, but even then, remember that you are accepting a story - words in lieu of experience.

Is it important to agree on a universal truth or can we live our lives accepting that every individual has his or her own truth, based on his or her experiences?

Does is help to try to correct other people's version of the truth? Does it help to tell someone who believes they are right, they are wrong?

Whose version of the truth is valid?

The answer is clear–yours. You are responsible for your truth. You are the only person who experiences truth the way you do. The way you experience the world is unique. The way other people experience the world is also unique. Are you able to accept this?

If you cannot, then you will likely experience tension between yourself and others, as you argue for different versions of the truth.

If you can accept that every person experiences a unique truth, then you can focus on developing relationships with people that are based on common experiences, where mutual support can be forged and acceptance can be gained.

Allowing others to have their truth, without feeling the need to correct or debate it, leaves more time and space in your life to enjoy the things you value - and to deepen your authentic experiences through active attention to this eternal moment.

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The Enlightening Path

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How can I achieve greater contentment by becoming better at using my mind?
This is a question we rarely ask ourselves, yet possibly the most important one we could ever ask.

Your mind, as your helper, is constantly presenting you with options, scenarios, possibilities, most of which arise from your very creative imagination. This process is very easy to observe in one’s own mind.

One key to an enlightening life, is to take time to observe your thoughts and note their characteristics. This way, you are able to make better choices about how you use the thoughts you have.

One common school of thought advises us to attempt to clear our minds of a unwanted thoughts, thereby helping us to focus, feel more at ease, and attend to the present. While the goal sounds simple enough, the process of using one’s mind to clear one’s mind, may not be the most effective or realistic approach.

Our minds are much like the Weather, a vast and dynamic system of interconnected forces. The modern human mind is largely characterized by split second pattern recognition, multiple associations, and cross references between not only thoughts, but feelings and emotions, as well as our imagination. Trying to control it may be one of the most difficult paths to take.

The adept sailor understands that he will never be able to control the wind and the waves. Instead, he learns to move with them, using what is presented to his best advantage. We can use our minds in the same way. It begins with understanding that not all thoughts are equally useful. It begins with recognizing the different thought types and making choices about which thoughts we use and which ones we don’t.

Pay attention to your thoughts for even a few minutes and you will quickly come to recognize that many of them revolve around specific memories. If your past were represented by a series of dots, these events would be exclamation marks. They are the events to which you also have a strong emotional association. These memories become hubs of mental activity. Like giant magnets, they are quickly surrounded with similar thoughts, memories, and emotions-both from your past–and potentially from your imagined future.

This is why some people have very strong reactions to specific types of events. It’s not the event itself causes suffering, events are neutral when it comes to emotional charge. Thoughts and emotions, on the other hand, are always personal. How someone reacts to a situation depends not only on the situation itself, but more so on how he copes with the flood of associated thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

When confronted with an undesirable “Exclamation mark” situation, our minds leap into action in an attempt to help us answer the questions: “Why is this happening?” “How can I fix this?” and often, “Who is to blame?” At the same time, similar events from our past, and the feelings associated with them, are pulled into orbit around the event, multiplying its effect. As our minds scramble to assist us, the storm of mental and emotional activity created often feels overwhelming, which is why some people have more extreme reactions then others to essentially the same situation.

How do we learn to walk the enlightening path?

Accept the current situation.

There are broken pieces of glass and water on the floor. It’s true that a moment ago there was a glass of water on the countertop. Now, there is something else. What is here now? This is the only relevant question. This is the question that will help you live in the present. What is the situation right now and what can I do to improve it, for myself or for someone else?

Accept your active mind.

Not every thought you have it is helpful. Many of the thoughts you experience are pulled into your awareness as your mind tries to solve the various puzzles of life. Many thoughts are there simply because they’re similar. There are likely far more thoughts on a given topic then you actually need. Rather than trying to clear them away, which could be as futile as trying to smooth out the waves in the ocean, accept their presence, be grateful for your active mind, and acknowledge that being human means having myriad thoughts. Yes, you will be reminded of similar events and feelings from your past. Yes, you may lie in bed at night with thoughts racing through your imagination. Rather than trying to push them away, which only creates tension, accept them as part of nature, like leaves falling from the tree. The sky is not falling­–just a few leaves.

Accept your own reaction.

However you react to a situation or event is a reflection of your condition. It’s not uncommon that people will become more upset because they have become upset. Feelings of embarrassment, frustration, and anger can be layered on top of an undesirable situation, compounding the negative effects. In an effort to protect our egos, we often look outside of ourselves to identify the cause of our suffering. We point the finger towards others, blaming them for the way we currently feel. We leave the enlightening path, often causing unnecessary damage to our relationships and unconsciously placing ourselves at the mercy of others. It’s okay to feel disappointment. It’s okay to be upset. If this is your condition, then so be it. Take responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings. You are both student and teacher. How will you use your thoughts next time? What has this experience shown you about your own condition? This is how we walk the enlightening path.

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Music by Greg Ellis, Layne Redmond, and Azam Ali, used with permission.
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Ohana – The Key to Kindness

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Mindfulness, Spirituality, Kalani Das, OHANA
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Kindness is the Light that dissolves all walls between Souls, families and nations.
- Paramahansa Yogananda

We are born into family. No human bonds are stronger, more important to our survival, and longer lasting. Throughout history, people all over the world value the importance of family. Some have even called it the nucleus of civilization.

If family is at the core of civilization, and kindness is the light that dissolves all walls between Souls, Families, and Nations, then logically, it is in our best interest to exercises kindness at every opportunity.

Many of us are most kind and tolerant with our immediate family members, even if we might choose otherwise should they be strangers, then to our extended family, then to our religious or spiritual family, our social or ethic group family and so on. As relationships move farther away from the nucleus; however, so do our levels of tolerance and kindness.

Generally speaking, we are not as kind or tolerant with strangers as we are with our friends. In some instances, there might exist a predisposition for a lack of kindness towards certain groups of people, perhaps due to perceptions based on history or associations between a group of people and the actions of specific members of that group. For whatever reasons, people sometimes withhold kindness in situations where it is obviously needed.

How can we step into the light of kindness and dissolve walls? It’s very simple: Treat everyone as if they are a member of your family. In the Hawaiian culture, this concept is called Ohana, meaning ‘Family.’ Many cultures around the world share this idea. It is up to us, as individuals, to create the reality of Ohana.

One way to expand the kindness of Ohana, is to reframe the way you think about other people. For example, you may think of anyone who is in your peer group as your brother, sister, or cousin, rather than as a stranger. You may think of anyone who is in your parents’ peer group as Uncle or Auntie, and people in your Grandparents peer group as Grandfather and Grandmother, “Tutu” in Hawaiian. You may think of any child as your son, daughter, niece, or nephew.

It’s not necessary to use these labels out loud. They can remain private and still be very effective in dissolving walls, reducing tension, and improving relationships. When you meet a stranger, think “hello, Brother.” It will change the way you feel and the way you treat people. If everyone practiced this, just imagine how quickly the world could change.

The key is to practice Ohana, even when others are not. Waiting to offer kindness until you first receive kindness is not practicing kindness at all. You may offer endless amounts of kindness and never run out. Give it freely and your heart will open and be filled. It is that which we withhold that we often feel denied by others.

When you meet a stranger on the street, be the first to offer kindness, to look at and greet them, to show the unconditional support of family. It’s not important that they respond in a way that meets your expectations. The scent of the rose remains on the hand of the one who gives it.

Be the person who offers flowers wherever you go. Be the one who shines the light of kindness on everyone you meet and everyone you could meet. We are all one family. Let our actions provide evidence of this belief.

Your practice: Treat every person you meet with the same kindness as you would your most beloved family member. Then share this idea with as many people as possible. This is how we get to live in the world we want.

mindfulness, spirituality, meditation, conscious living, kalani das, evolve.

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Life is Sensational

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Sensational Life
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Light moves on its pathways through space, Enters the eyes, and you absorb the luminous.

Each sense is a current of divinity, sparkling with mystery.

Light, motion, space, vision, awareness – All are composed of omnipresence.

The senses connecting you to the outer world and paths of communion with the inner world.

Every sight, sound, smell, taste touch ... a greeting from the Beloved.

  • The Radiance Sutras by Lorin Roche

It begins with presence, engaging in the here and now experience of life. It’s at the core of happiness, the heart of your humanity, and the path two an enlightened way of being.

Your world consists of physical, auditory, visual, and aesthetic experiences. Become the observer of these sensations and life becomes sensational!

When we attend more deeply to sensations, we increase the possibility for feelings of appreciation, wonderment, and satisfaction.

Are you skilled observer? Are you aware of your body as it rests or moves in your environment? Are you tuning in to the sensation of gravity, the temperature of the air on your skin, and the way changes in light warm and cool your skin? Are you feeling the pulse of life inside your body? Are you feeling the love?

Are you pausing long enough to take in the beauty in your surroundings, the shapes, textures. and colors that form the landscape around you? Have you paused lately to observe the beautiful shimmers of light through glass or water, the gentle sway of a spring flower reaching towards the sun, or the movements of life in your environment? Are you seeing the light?

Are you listening deeply? Are you aware of the gentle whisper of your own breath, the sound of eating your favorite foods, the music of nature just outside your window, the patter of tiny feet, a bird song, a dog barking? Are you hearing the music?

When you take time for a meal, are you attending to the unique and delicious flavors? Are you aware of what you taste, smell, and how those flavors blend to create new ones? Are you savoring the moment?

Life is an experience that happens in the present moment. Everything else happens in your imagination. Even memories of experiences are what we imagine them to be. It’s true that happy memories can help elevate our mood in the present. It’s also true that the more time we spend attending to our imagination the less we are attending to the present. Attending to recycled or imagined experiences leaves less space in the present. Have you ever found yourself thinking about something? You were lost somewhere outside of the present.

How can you become more skilled at being the conscious observer of your present experiences? It begins with awareness of thought. Reducing the amount of time you spend imagining the past and future will help fill your present moments with more authentic experiences. When you make space for beingness, for awareness of sensations, life evolves naturally and fully.

You don’t need to do anything special to be more in the present. All you have to do, is get out of the past and the future. The present is always here, ready to amaze and fulfill.

Look, listen, touch, taste, and deepen your life experience right now. You have everything you need to find the extraordinary within the ordinary. What an absolutely amazing gift it is–this life experience. It’s not a competition, but a celebration. You won the moment you showed up. Your life is the prize. Enjoy it.

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